Posts

7 DAY KICKSTART TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

 

Confidence is a skill that anyone can build. It doesn’t have to be hard, but it does take work.

I’ve been putting in the work to build my self-confidence since 2016. Before then, I was shy and extremely insecure about myself. I suffered from anxiety and depression due to my lack of self-confidence. One major factor contributing to my lack of confidence was the toxic environment that I worked in. It was affecting my emotional as well as physical well being. However, I was too afraid to leave because I didn’t believe in my ability to succeed. When I was at my lowest point, I somehow found the courage to leave this job. I can’t point to one thing in particular that convinced me I could do it, but I am thankful every day for making that decision. After leaving that job, I made it a goal to continually strive for self-improvement. I believed in myself, but I knew I was going to have to change my lifestyle if I wanted to live a confident, healthy, and happy life.

I drastically improved my well-being and self-confidence by…

  • Practicing meditation
  • Learning about the power of habits
  • Rewiring my mindset
  • Creating goals, plans, and schedules
  • Developing mantras
  • Eliminating certain foods and drinks from my diet
  • Investing in proper skin care products and committing to a skin care regimen
  • Scheduling time for fitness every day
  • Challenging myself to try new things
  • Finding an accountability group

 

Now, I successfully run my own business and live each day with confidence, love, and gratitude. I am extremely proud of how much progress I have made and I want to help you do the same!

Based on the research I have done and the lessons I have learned regarding confidence, I have designed my 7 Day Kickstart to Build Confidence course. I believe this course will help anyone to get on the right track to creating a confident life.

7 day confidence kickstart guide

 

DAY 1: Establish a confident mindset

  • Create your confidence mantra
  • Make your mantra a habit by linking it to your anchor habit (an existing habit that you already do every single day without thinking about it)
  • Find and follow mentors, whether online or in real life, that inspire you to build your confidence

 

DAY 2: Find your focus, set goals, make a plan

  • Sit in a relaxing environment, free of any distractions
  • Brain dump – get everything out of your mind
  • Find your 30-day focus
  • Define your top 3 goals based on this focus
  • Create deadlines for your goals and mark them on your calendar
  • Turn your brain dump into a realistic to-do list
  • Subdivide to-do list at the start of each week

DAY 3: Disconnect from distracting technology

  • Don’t waste time investing people that don’t invest in you
  • Unfollow social media accounts that cause you to feel negatively
  • Optimize your smart phone for productivity: only place apps that you absolutely need on the first page

 

DAY 4: De-clutter your environment

  • Clear out your fridge and pantry
  • Make a neat and clean workspace
  • Give your bedroom a refresh

 

DAY 5: Meal plan + schedule fitness

  • Organize your grocery shopping list & schedule
  • Schedule physical activity every day
  • Choose your skin care regimen and commit to it

 

DAY 6: Optimize your skin care routine

  • Always follow a skin care regimen: cleanse, tone, correct, moisturize
  • Invest in your skin care products
  • Sunscreen is the number one anti-aging treatment out there

 

DAY 7: Try something you’ve never done before

  • The quickest way to build confidence is to do what you are afraid to do
  • Get outside your comfort zone; don’t think just do it
  • Find an accountability partner

HABITS OF A CONFIDENT WOMAN

 

When you first reflect on the question, “What are the habits of a confident woman?” you may answer with qualities such as outgoing, social, and the life of the party. While these traits may be consistent with many confident women, I’m here to challenge what it really means to be confident.

In my eyes, a confident woman doesn’t necessarily have to be an extrovert or overly outgoing, but rather she believes in herself and her values. To elaborate further, I’ve outlined what I believe are the habits of a confident woman.

 HABITS OF A CONFIDENT WOMAN

 

She believes in herself, even when no one else does

A confident woman knows that she can accomplish anything she sets her mind to. There will be times when others doubt her or say she is dreaming too big. She listens to their words but doesn’t allow them to distract her from the goals and visions she has for her life. A confident woman is capable of anything and makes a plan to get what she wants.

She uses both her strengths and weaknesses to her advantage

Let’s face it, no one’s perfect. A confident woman knows that about herself and about others. She doesn’t get jealous of another woman’s strengths, but rather she admires them. A confident woman doesn’t brag about her strengths, but she sure as hell knows what they are and uses them to make the most out of every day.

 

She prioritizes self-care

It is easy to forget the importance of self-care. Society constantly pressures us to do more, to make more money, to go more places, to be a better parent or student or employee. So much to do yet there is still only 24 hours in a day. One part of building confidence is understanding that in those 24 hours we must make time for ourselves.

Habits of a Confident Woman - Prioritize Self-Care

 

She schedules time for exercise and plans healthy meals

A confident woman doesn’t feel obligated to lose weight or look a certain way, but rather she knows the importance of having a healthy body.

 

She knows that dessert is not an option, but a necessity

A confident woman doesn’t restrict herself with crazy diets. She finds a balance between healthy eating and indulging in some chocolate cake every once in a while 😉

Enjoy Life & Eat Cake

She knows that a proper skin care routine is far more important than the perfect makeup routine

A confident woman follows a regimen to properly take care of her skin. She knows that wearing a face full of make up is not only unhealthy, but is a sign that she cannot confidently show her true complexion.

 

She says no when she needs to

A confident woman will say no to things that distract her from her priorities. For example, going out over the weekend with her girlfriends is fun, but it also can get pretty pricey when you add things up (outfit, food, drinks, Uber, cover charge, etc.). So if saving money is her priority, she can confidently say no to a night out and make plans for a more budget friendly girls night.

The Daily Femme says it perfectly: “A confident woman knows that saying ‘no’ to others often means she is saying ‘yes’ to herself.”

 

She expresses gratitude, even in tough times

 A confident woman knows that a grateful heart is a magnet for miracles. She knows this is especially true when everything seems to be going wrong. Finding the best of these situations and remaining grateful is a sign of having the self-confidence to pull through tough times.

A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

 

 

She knows that failure is part of the process. 

A confident woman doesn’t get discouraged by failure. Instead, she learns from her mistakes and plans how she can improve.  She always keeps in mind that failure is success in progress.

 

Remember…

No one is born with confidence. It is a skill that is built and shaped by the way we are raised along with experiences that occur over the course of our life. Confidence is a skill that anyone can build, yet it seems that so many of us struggle with it.

In fact, self-confidence was an issue for myself not that long ago. When I began focusing on this area of personal development I made it a goal to create healthy habits that would help to build my confidence, which lead me to create this list of Habits of A Confident Woman. 

What habits do you believe a confident woman should possess? Leave me a comment below if you would add anything else to my list 🙂

SELF-CARE IDEAS: HOW TO START MAKING YOURSELF A PRIORITY TODAY

 

“It’s not selfish to do what is best for you.” – Mark Sutton

 

It seems that many people, including myself, often put other people’s needs before their own. While it is important to take care of the people we love, it is absolutely essential to take care of ourselves first in order to do so!

To start making yourself a priority, I have made a list of my favorite self-care activities that you can try out today!

BULLET JOURNAL SELF CARE IDEAS

Take a break from work

Even if you have SO MUCH work to get done with deadlines that seem impossible to meet, you need to give yourself a break to escape the overwhelm. I learned this the hard way… I would work 13 hour shifts as a retail pharmacist without giving myself a 5 minute break (and no, we weren’t one of the pharmacies that close for an hour). My physical, mental, and emotional well-bring rapidly declined. Now I have learned that when I am feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it is absolutely necessary to take a break, even if just for 5 minutes!

 Get some fresh air

Go outside!! The world is a beautiful place, don’t stay cooped up inside staring a Facebook all day! Sit in the sun and soak up a little vitamin D. Go for a walk or run! Exercise is not only necessary for health, it is necessary for your well-being. A brisk walk or run will raise your endorphins, putting you in a happy mood 🙂

Learn a new skill

Currently, the new skill I have been practicing is hand lettering with brush pens. I purchased the Koi Coloring Brush Pen Set and I was amazed at home much easier it was to use brush pens than a traditional calligraphy pen. It still takes a lot of patience, but for me my concentration on the letter makes any stressful thoughts disappear! I often turn to practicing my hand lettering when I have anxiety or feel overwhelmed because it eases those feelings instantly.

HAND LETTERING WITH KOI BRUSH PENS

 

Listen to a motivating podcast

My go-to motivating podcast right now is The Chalene Show. Chalene Johnson is just all around amazing: from her fitness routines, to her motivational tips, to her PUSH journal, I am obsessed with everything this woman has to say!

 

Get dressed up just because!

You don’t need a reason to get dressed up and look your best. Just do it for YOU! Now, I will admit that style and fashion is not my forte. I am so much more comfortable wearing yoga pants and a tee all day. One way that I have found to be both comfortable and look cute is through Stitch Fix.

Stitch Fix has been a godsend for me! Basically, you get your own personal stylist based on how you answer a style quiz. Tell your stylist what styles you like, what you hate, and your budget. Then all you have to do is wait patiently until your first package arrives!

The day that my first Stitch Fix box that was delivered to my doorstep was pretty much equivalent to opening gifts on Christmas morning. What would be in the box?! Turns out my stylist figured me out right from the start! I kept all five items in the box (a cardigan, dressy tank top, black jeans, a comfy gray tee, and a necklace). By keeping all 5 items, I received 25% off the ENTIRE price and they waive the $20 styling fee. Plus, you get FREE shipping and FREE returns! Out of all of the subscription boxes that I have tried, this one is definitely the most valuable, helpful, and fun! Click here to try your own style quiz!

TAKE THE STITCH FIX STYLE QUIZ

Buy yourself flowers

Just like you don’t need a reason to get dressed up, you also don’t need a reason (or a man!) to buy yourself some fresh flowers! I don’t know about you, but having fresh flowers in the house just makes me feel happy every time I see them.

SELF-CARE-IDEA-BUY-YOURSELF-FLOWERS-1024x683

Do something you have never done before

Think about it: What is something that you have never done before? When is the last time you have tried something for the very first time? Don’t think too hard and talk yourself out of doing it – just GO!

JUST GO LEATHER PASSPORT WALLET

 

Listen to music from when you were in high school

Listening to music from this time period brings our minds back to fun, carefree times… which will pretty much instantly boost your mood!

 

Write your thoughts in a journal

One of my favorite ways to relieve stress is to just write. I’m talking pen to paper and getting everything out. This helps me to relieve any stress or anxiety that I’m feeing, or it gives me time to write about any new ideas that I’ve been thinking about. I’ve been journaling for several years now thus I’ve tested out many types of journals to see which was the best fit for me.self care idea write in a journal

My personal favorite is the Leuchtturm1917 medium size hardcover dotted notebook. I like the hardcover of this notebook because it makes it durable so I can bring it everywhere with me. Also, the dotted grid pattern enables me to make straight lines every time. Plus, the bright yellow color just makes me smile 🙂

Self Care Idea- write it a journal

Draw a picture

Or if drawing isn’t your thing, try an adult coloring book!

 

Drink a hot cup of tea or coffee

Caffeine, energy, and antioxidants! And who doesn’t feel better after sipping a warm cup of coffee? 😉

SELF CARE IDEA: DRINK A HOT CUP OF COFFEE OR TEA

Cook a healthy meal

I’m sure everyone can agree that taking the time to cook a healthy meal feels so much better than stuffing your face with McDonalds french fries!

 

Try out a new fitness class

I personally love hot yoga and kick-boxing classes, but there are so many others to choose from!

Some other examples are barre, pilates, and Piyo.

Another unique one that I tried once was aerial yoga! I really enjoyed aerial yoga because it stretches every muscle in your body! Although there were a few time that I found myself semi-stuck in a position and had to have the instructor unravel me from the fabric! (insert laughing/crying emoji here)

 

Take a long, hot bath or shower

Add in some bubble bath or epsom salts to make it even more relaxing!

 

Give yourself a facial

Facials leave me feeling refreshed and confident.

Send me a message to find out how you can get a free Rodan + Fields mini facial!

 

Treat yourself to a mani/pedi

You’ve been working really hard haven’t you? I know you have and that is why you deserve a trip to the nail salon for a mani-pedi! I justify doing this every 1 to 2 months because having my nails nicely groomed makes me feel put together.

 

Make a list of all the things you are grateful for

I have an endless amount of things to be grateful for, but I tend to forget some of them when I am feeling worried or stress! If you can say the same, then ease those feelings by making a list of all the things you are grateful for. I bet it will make that one thing that has been stressing you out seem small compared to all of the wonderful gifts that you have in your life.

 

Read a new book 

Or reread one of your favorites!

 

Listen to a guided meditation

I particularly like Noah Elkrief’s guided meditation (and all of his videos!) Listen to one here.

 

De-clutter a small area of the house

Emphasis on small. Trying to reorganize your whole garage at once can add even more stress to your life! Start with a small area, like a corner of the garage or the top of your desk. Clear everything out (or off) and clean the space thoroughly. Get rid of things that you do not need. Put back the things that you do need in a neat and organized manner. Now doesn’t that make you feel a lot better?!

 

Call a friend or family member just to chat

I bet your mom or your out-of-state BFF would love to catch up with all the new and exciting things going on in your life! Give them a call, even if it’s just a quick one!