Confidence is a skill, not a personality trait.
I used to think that confidence was a personality trait. One that I would never have since I am an introvert, I have a quiet demeanor, and I prefer to not be the center of attention. A turning point for me was when I learned that being an introvert and being shy are two completely different things.
Being an introvert simply means that my energy levels can be easily drained when I am in large groups of people and I feel recharged when I am alone. The opposite applies to extroverts; they find energy through being with other people and prefer not to be alone. Understanding this concept gave me hope that I could build a confident life even though I am an introvert.
Confidence starts with your mindset.
We must realize that confidence ultimately comes from within. I often hear people say that losing weight, wearing the best clothes, or perfecting their makeup will make them feel more confident. But I disagree. There is no external factor that can give us true confidence. While all of those things might make us feel good, that feeling is temporary.
Developing confidence that will last starts with deciding in our minds that we ARE confident. What helped me to grasp this concept was a quote by C.S. Lewis:
“We are what we believe we are.”
Living confidently includes maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
While finding the right mindset is the key to building confidence, feeling good about yourself both inside and out will boost your confidence even further. Previously, my methods of “feeling good” were actually pretty unhealthy habits. I would go shopping and spend money on clothes and makeup and junk for my apartment that I really did not need. I would skip exercising because it just felt so much better to binge watch Netflix on the couch. I would turn to alcohol when I was sad and I would eat fast food almost every day. Turns out the ways I was trying to make myself feel better were actually making me feel worse.
Since then I have radically changed my diet, my commitment to exercise, and I have been sober since January 2, 2017. Don’t get me wrong, these changes did not happen overnight! With hard work and patience, however, I have created a healthy lifestyle that truly makes me feel good about myself and has helped to improve self-confidence significantly.
Transforming my own life took several months of practice, but I have condensed the most important aspects of building confidence into a 7-day course. And guess what? I want you to have it for free!
Here’s the catch: this course is only available for those who are motivated and ready to change their ways in order to build a confident life. So are you ready to take the steps to build your self-confidence?
During the time I have spent on developing self-confidence, I have found a ton of great resources that have helped me along the way. I have organized all of the best resources along with some I have created on my own in my resource library. It includes tutorial videos, printable planning guides, meal planning ideas, fitness routines, and much more!